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Tips for New Year’s Resolutions to Get Organized

Welcome back!

So, to pay it forward to those who helped me out over the years, I decided to do two blog posts about two common New Year’s goals: 1) Losing weight, and 2) Getting organized.

Last week we covered the weight loss tips that I found actually worked–i.e. I can vouch for the tips since I lost and kept off 25 lbs. (per doctor’s orders) over the last 18 months by using them. No diets. No extreme workouts.

Also, like I wrote last week, I’m not a professional expert on weight loss or organizing.  I encourage anyone with questions to talk to an expert. There are professionals out there who can be of great help.

Goal 2 – Getting Organized

  1. Every object we own has a yearly cost in time, space, and money. Pay attention to what those costs are. It’s crucial to become aware of these costs–if one gathers stuff long enough, one ends up running out of room in one’s residence. It’s a lot cheaper to get rid of stuff than to pay to move to a bigger place or pay the monthly rent on a storage unit.
  2. Shopaholic and/or hoarding symptoms are warning signs that the help of an expert is needed. Don’t go it alone if you or someone you care about shows signs of either. An experienced therapist is needed to help tackle the underlying problems.
  3. Organization is a learned habit. Learn how to do it. Read a great book on organization, such as Marie Kondo’s The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up: The Japanese Art of Decluttering and Organizing. I stumbled across her book in an airport bookstore while on my journey back from Tel Aviv, and read it on the plane. She does an excellent job of summarizing the key techniques needed to get organized.
  4. Keep what you love, get rid of the rest.  Marie Kondo’s book does a terrific job describing the sorting & discarding process in detail, and the emotions involved.
  5. File folders are your friend. Whether it’s file folders for an actual filing cabinet, or on your computer, create a filing system and use it. I have saved countless hours searching for tax records and other documents by doing so.
  6. Organize and store medical records in a portable binder … or scan them into pdf files that you can store in a specific folder on a portable device such as an iPad. This is especially critical if someone has a serious medical condition. Bring that binder or iPad to every meeting with a new health professional. It can speed up the diagnosis and treatment journey when you’re able to swiftly provide copies of laboratory and medical reports. **I’m writing from personal experience on this–getting the medical records organized and easily accessible can literally save someone’s life. Do it ASAP.**
  7. Once the place you live in is cleared out and organized, there’s a high chance a relative, neighbor, or friend will ask to store some of their stuff there. It’s important to be emotionally prepared for this, or stuff will accumulate again … only this time, it’ll be other people’s stuff. Figure out what to say when it happens–will you say “No”; set a specific time limit; or charge them money for the storage?
  8. Celebrate that you’re making room in your life for The New.

Good luck to everyone with their resolutions for the New Year and I wish everyone much success in accomplishing them.

Cheers, Lynn

Tips for New Year’s Resolutions to Lose Weight

Welcome to 2016! I hope you are all well. It’s great to be back and doing a blog post. It’s been so quiet blog-wise because I went on overseas travel to Israel and Palestine to do research for future stories.

Mid-January is a good moment for me to pass on some learned wisdom about two common New Year’s Resolutions (at least here in the United States). By around now the excitement of possible change is fading away, to be replaced by the daily slog of reality. The two common resolutions I will cover are:

Goal 1 – Losing Weight

Goal 2 – Getting Organized

I’m not a professional expert on these two issues. I have, however, by trial and error stumbled onto advice from others that actually works and I want to pass that advice on as a way to pay it forward.

For this week’s blog post I’ll cover the goal of losing weight.

Goal 1 – Losing Weight

  1. Make peace with your body as it is today. Ditch the self-hate, because it gets in the way of feeling joy. Find outfits to wear that make you happy and confident now. Self-care needs to be a priority.
  2. Treat obesity as a disease, not a moral failing. It’s better to be dispassionate about this medical situation. Negative self-talk only increases the odds that stress eating and failure will occur.
  3. Schedule an appointment with your family doctor and talk about getting tested for diabetes, high cholesterol, thyroid problems, and other conditions. Also, you need a health assessment of how much weight you actually need to lose, if any. Eating disorders and unrealistic body goals are a genuine hazard.
  4. Before your body can permanently change, your mind must change. I strongly recommend reading a book on the psychology of weight loss before starting any diet and exercise program. Dr. Martha Beck’s The Four Day Win does a good job covering the behavioral and emotional issues involved with permanent weight loss.
  5. Food is fuel. Log the actual calories you’re consuming. Buy a food scale so you can measure anything you’re eating that doesn’t come with the exact calorie count. No self-shaming allowed. Watch yourself the way a scientist would and log the results each day.
  6. After an eating binge, pay attention to what was happening before and during the binge. Was there an emotional trigger? Log that information.
  7. Build a support team. If you need expert advice and guidance, get it. It’s a lot cheaper to hire a nutritionist and personal trainer for a few months than to pay the long-term medical bills involved with severe obesity.
  8. Aim for 1 tiny permanent healthy change in your life each week. One tiny change a week means that there will be 52 changes made in your life by the end of the year. They add up, fast. Really.  Also, a tiny change is easy to manage, even during a life crisis, and so going off track is unlikely to happen.

Next week I’ll be back with tips on getting organized.

 

Welcome to the Era of Being Hurt by Too Much as Well as Too Little

After a long hiatus, I went to the movies this summer to see several films (Thor was very good), and I was stunned to notice how huge the sodas and popcorn bags are.

I’m old enough to remember when today’s “small” soda size was more like a  “large” back in the 1970s.

I wondered if maybe my memory was faulty, so I did some digging around, and found some outside sources that confirmed that this change wasn’t just in my head. Check out this portion quiz done by the National Institute of Health if you want to see how things have changed in the past 20 years. And here’s an article from several years back at USA Today that covers “Portion Distortion.”

For those of us in the U.S. with the money to pay for food, we can now literally eat ourselves into obesity and bad health if we aren’t paying attention to what is being served to us.  There are so many choices and the portions have gotten so oversized that we can literally eat our way to an early death.

And yet there are still people dying of famine and starvation in this world.

Welcome to the era of being hurt by too much as well as too little. And it isn’t going to just be too much food. It’s also going to be too much information, too much communication, and too many entertainment choices.

In the old days, most people could get away about not being mindful about what they were doing because either the choices were limited, the costs were high, or their disposable income was limited.

But prices are coming down and the technology barriers are falling. We’re about to have too much to choose from and deal with, instead of too little.  Think about it. Already there’s more blogs and e-books and video games than someone could  experience in a lifetime. Internet connections are on 24/7/365 through social media and cell phones, so that the communication demands never stop unless the person mindfully chooses to take a break.

Long ago, when I wanted to goof off from my homework by watching TV, I had only five channels to choose from. There were no VCRs. There was no cable. If I didn’t like what was on those five channels (which happened quite a lot), I was out of luck and had to find something else to do–like read a book, or stop procrastinating and finish my work.

Now I’ve got so much to choose from on my TV that I could spend my entire life on my couch watching show after show and never run out of things to watch. I find myself in an era where I have to make strict rules about TV usage (limits on the number of hours, and having to mindfully think about what I want to watch) or else I’d fritter the hours of my life away.

I’m willing to bet that time management is going to become a critical survival  skill. It was hard enough to manage time in the old days. Now someone’s entire life can easily disappear down a black hole of web surfing, social media, and entertainment, and the big dreams in life will never get done.

A big dream (for example, to become an archaeologist) requires long hours and hard work. It requires focus and dedication over decades. I find myself wondering how many people are going to wake up thirty years from now to discover that they’ve frittered their dreams away by not being able to manage the overabundance of having too much.

I speak of these things because I struggle with them on a daily basis. These days I must consciously remind myself to get off the internet, get away from the TV, or put down my e-reader. I can no longer rely on boredom to get me to stop an entertainment activity since the choices are almost limitless now.

I love it that favorite authors of mine are putting up their backlists in electronic format. I love being able to obtain and watch famous films that would have been unavailable to me in the past. But now I have think about what I want to do and experience, because the options are too vast otherwise.

I was told about Randy Pausch’s lecture on Time Management, which I watched and found a helpful introduction to various ideas and techniques. There are also books by Steven Covey and Peter Drucker that do a good job in teaching time management.

Through trial and error I’ve found one of the most useful questions for me to ask at the beginning of the day is, “When this day is over, what will I regret not getting done?”  Whatever things pop up become the major goals of the day and I do everything I possibly can to do them.

So let me leave readers with this question:

“When this day is over, what will you regret not getting done?”