Category Archives: Life

Changes, Nothing But Changes

Seven months ago I came to the realization that if I didn’t make massive changes to my life, my family and I were going to end up in deep trouble.

Aging parents thousands of miles away … a housing market that never truly recovered from the 2008 housing crash … an anemic employment market … a school system starting to unravel … etc etc etc.

So when it became clear back in March 2016 that the housing market in my neighborhood finally had a pulse, I knew we had to sell ASAP and move closer to parents while the chance to seize this opportunity existed.

Better to to take action before a crisis hit.

So I just spent six months doing a 2,000-mile relocation of our family on short notice. For most of that time I worked non-stop from 6am to 10pm, seven days a week.

The writing (obviously) slowed down to a trickle. It’s my only regret in doing this relocation so fast. But it was worth the price, because the worst of the move is over.

Now I’m rolling up my sleeves and tackling the writing side of things. So after months of quiet from me, things are about to get noisy.

Tips for New Year’s Resolutions to Get Organized

Welcome back!

So, to pay it forward to those who helped me out over the years, I decided to do two blog posts about two common New Year’s goals: 1) Losing weight, and 2) Getting organized.

Last week we covered the weight loss tips that I found actually worked–i.e. I can vouch for the tips since I lost and kept off 25 lbs. (per doctor’s orders) over the last 18 months by using them. No diets. No extreme workouts.

Also, like I wrote last week, I’m not a professional expert on weight loss or organizing.  I encourage anyone with questions to talk to an expert. There are professionals out there who can be of great help.

Goal 2 – Getting Organized

  1. Every object we own has a yearly cost in time, space, and money. Pay attention to what those costs are. It’s crucial to become aware of these costs–if one gathers stuff long enough, one ends up running out of room in one’s residence. It’s a lot cheaper to get rid of stuff than to pay to move to a bigger place or pay the monthly rent on a storage unit.
  2. Shopaholic and/or hoarding symptoms are warning signs that the help of an expert is needed. Don’t go it alone if you or someone you care about shows signs of either. An experienced therapist is needed to help tackle the underlying problems.
  3. Organization is a learned habit. Learn how to do it. Read a great book on organization, such as Marie Kondo’s The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up: The Japanese Art of Decluttering and Organizing. I stumbled across her book in an airport bookstore while on my journey back from Tel Aviv, and read it on the plane. She does an excellent job of summarizing the key techniques needed to get organized.
  4. Keep what you love, get rid of the rest.  Marie Kondo’s book does a terrific job describing the sorting & discarding process in detail, and the emotions involved.
  5. File folders are your friend. Whether it’s file folders for an actual filing cabinet, or on your computer, create a filing system and use it. I have saved countless hours searching for tax records and other documents by doing so.
  6. Organize and store medical records in a portable binder … or scan them into pdf files that you can store in a specific folder on a portable device such as an iPad. This is especially critical if someone has a serious medical condition. Bring that binder or iPad to every meeting with a new health professional. It can speed up the diagnosis and treatment journey when you’re able to swiftly provide copies of laboratory and medical reports. **I’m writing from personal experience on this–getting the medical records organized and easily accessible can literally save someone’s life. Do it ASAP.**
  7. Once the place you live in is cleared out and organized, there’s a high chance a relative, neighbor, or friend will ask to store some of their stuff there. It’s important to be emotionally prepared for this, or stuff will accumulate again … only this time, it’ll be other people’s stuff. Figure out what to say when it happens–will you say “No”; set a specific time limit; or charge them money for the storage?
  8. Celebrate that you’re making room in your life for The New.

Good luck to everyone with their resolutions for the New Year and I wish everyone much success in accomplishing them.

Cheers, Lynn

Spring Came Early This Year

Spring came early to the Southwest this year, and I’m taking a quick break from writing to share it with you.


The lilac bush is on the verge of bursting forth with blossoms. It smells wonderful when you stand underneath it.

Third picture of cherry tree branches by Lynn Kilmore

 

 

The cherry trees are in full bloom. They’re beautiful.

Another picture of cherry trees by Lynn Kilmore

 

 

 

Here’s two pictures of what you would see if you stood under the cherry trees and looked up through the branches.Picture of cherry tree by Lynn Kilmore

Spring has returned, and I am glad to see it.

Cheers, Lynn

P.S. My activity on blogging and social media has gone down to almost nothing because I am hard at work on finishing the edits to the sequel to Cubicles, Blood, and Magic. The finish line is in sight, though it’s beginning to look like the novel will still come in at 1/3 longer than the first book.

Dreaming in February of Spring

There’s still quite a few weeks to go until spring arrives, but today I decided to share some photos from last spring to get one in the mood for its arrival.

Picture of spring flowers

Picture of spring daisies Each year we get a lot of daisies in the back yard, which survive the entire summer despite the dry heat.

third picture of spring flowers
Spring will be here soon. Until then, keeping dreaming of it.
Cheers, Lynn

Last Blooms of November

The weather service has issued a freeze warning for this week, so I’ve gone out to the garden to take pictures of the last blooms in the garden before it’s too late.

Closeup of rose by Lynn Kilmore

There’s something bittersweet about roses in November in New Mexico, since we know it can end at any time due to the coming of winter. The days are still warm enough for plants to grow … it’s the 30-40 degree F drop during the nights that kills the plants off.

We are currently on round 3 of the rose bushes blooming this year. This third blooming just started about a week-and-a-half ago.

Roses in November picture

The rosemary bushes are also in bloom right now. The blossoms look very delicate.

Rosemary in bloom picture by Lynn Kilmore

I hope you all enjoy the turning of the seasons this month.  Cheers, Lynn